I Am Enough

What if I told you that you are the exact parent your child needs? What would this shift for you?

For me, this shifted a lot. This expression hit me in the face while scrolling. I have been struggling a lot recently, and over the last 11 years of motherhood if I’m being honest with myself, with the question: Am I enough for my child(ren)? Often, when something challenging occurs - a setback, misstep, moment of frustration, I find I blame myself. I am often left wondering if I am doing enough for them. 

The reality is that these questions come from a place of scarcity, rather than abundance. These questions assume that I am in a permanent place of needing to do more, always being a step behind and needing to compensate for some weakness or other. What if I remove that and start from a place of being enough and everything I do is above and beyond?

This idea came to me, surprise surprise, in a yoga class today. I got to thinking about how, even after about 7 years of doing yoga, I still get so excited to practise. I get excited to practise in studio. I get excited to practise in my hotel room or gym when I’m traveling. It is the activity I have committed to the longest in my life, likely because of its sustainability. What makes it sustainable? Each time I practise, just by showing up, I am enough. Yoga assumes the best in me. It assumes that whatever pose I choose is the pose that’s the best choice for me. Yoga doesn’t judge me when I can’t do what I could do yesterday or last month. There is no room for judgement or comparison in yoga. It accepts me for who I am and all that I am. 

So what if motherhood did just that? What if we removed the judgement, comparison, and scarcity and assumed that we are all enough, just as we are? 

I am choosing to start 2025 with this mantra - I am enough for my children just as I am. And that, my friends, is a far more sustainable approach to mothering!